tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57650482519221549902024-02-07T06:40:23.987-05:00IS THERE LIFE AFTER SIXTY?Random ramblings on life, love, and other things...Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comBlogger71125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-10460716542979230532013-09-01T22:32:00.000-04:002017-09-05T08:05:06.870-04:00Life Cut Short...<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I am weary of death. I saw far too many people die while I was working hospice, and comforted so many loved ones. I still think about them all. On occasion, something requires that we return to New Bern and, as we drive past various streets, I remember those whose deaths I attended. Some had lived to a ripe old age and some were still young. Each death was a loss, but a few had become special to me and I felt those losses the most.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">In the last year I have lost three friends of varying degrees of friendship. All in their early sixties...far too young...far too soon.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The one year anniversary of Kathy's death is nearing. I blogged about <a href="http://istherelifeaftersixty.blogspot.com/2013/03/kathy.html" target="_blank">losing Kathy</a> some months ago. She was only 61 and left behind two children in grad school...just entering adulthood. She will never see them walk across a stage and receive their degrees. She will never have the pleasure of watching them marry, mature and enjoy some of life's successes. She will never know the pure joy of holding a grandchild and all that follows. We will never have the opportunity to hug one another. She will be missing so much and we will be missing her.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Ann was one of my closest friends when I lived in Miami. We lived two doors away from each other and had boys the same age who became fast friends. Rarely did a day pass that we didn't spend time together. I moved 800 miles away when our boys were 9, by then she'd had a daughter about two years younger than mine. We stayed in touch, but the friendship slowly receded into the past. In recent years Facebook helped us reconnect. Then, in June of this year, she messaged me. The breast cancer she'd beaten over twenty-five years ago had come back and, while it responded to treatment for a couple of years, she was not winning the battle. She said she wished I was there, that she would be needing hospice soon. She was tired of fighting and wanted to die on her own terms. She said she was almost ready to stop treatment and that she was scared. We talked for a while and I gave her my cell number. She never called. Six weeks later she passed quietly. She was 66 and had three small grandchildren on two coasts who will grow up without their grandma.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Lynn was one of the beautiful girls in high school. We were not close friends but our school was all-girls and our class small enough that everyone was friendly. I learned that she was a beloved kindergarten teacher for many years. Our graduating class began reconnecting on Facebook about five years ago. It was surprising how we felt a kinship, we are TMLA sisters (TMLA being an acronym for our high school). I saw Lynn three years ago at a reunion luncheon she helped plan. She was still one of the beautiful girls. This year was our 45th reunion. Although she still lived in the area, Lynn RSVP'd that she could not attend, that she had been diagnosed with ALS and had lost her ability to speak and to eat. It was a blow to all of us. Lou Gehrig's Disease is vicious...making you a prisoner in your own body before it kills you. Lynn bravely carried on as the disease robbed her of more and more function until she was a prisoner. A week ago her daughter-in-law announced that Lynn's quality of life had deteriorated to near non-existent and that Lynn had made the decision to discontinue her tube feedings. She died Friday, leaving behind her mother, her husband, her son and daughter-in-law and a slew of former students, friends and TMLA sisters. She was 63.</span><br />
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Kathy's death was unexpected, with no opportunity for anyone to say goodbye. Ann and Lynn had the opportunity to say goodbye to their families as they made courageous decisions to let go. I don't know if I could be that brave...and I hope I never have to find out. </span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-50269211661820213542013-05-14T23:01:00.000-04:002013-05-14T23:01:38.214-04:00Happy Mother's Day...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">This year was the first Mother's Day I have spent with BOTH my children since I can't remember when!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">We are getting ready to move into our 5th wheel camper full-time next month and are thinning out our possessions. Michael came down from West Virginia for the weekend to pick up the things he wanted. Along with my dining room and some bookcases, he surprised me by asking for china and silver and loved what he termed my "retro" Corning Ware!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Rebecca, Davis, Katie and Jackson came up for one day to visit, so I had a house full...and loved it! The kids ran wild, explored every nook and cranny, made a fort under the staircase with blankets, took the dogs on a walk around the pond and worked on crafts for Mommy's Mother's Day gift. I cooked a nice dinner for everyone...the pork tenderloin with apricot glaze was really good, if I do say so myself ;) but have to admit the asparagus were a bit overdone. In her exuberance pointing out which slice she wanted on her plate, Katie knocked over my beer...right into my lap! No big deal...clothes wash. It was an exhausting day, but I enjoyed having all that vitality and activity in my house.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Katie gave me a lovely Mother's Day card that she created on the computer. Then Jackson handed me his, pointing out: "That one's made on the computer, this one is handmade." They are both proudly displayed. Just love those kids so much.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">While he was here, Michael fixed Jack's smartphone and introduced us to the wonder of connecting our computer directly to the TV. So cool to see everything on a 46 inch screen! Apparently I can even download movies to my laptop and watch them on TV. He left us an HDMI cord and may have created a monster!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I was surrounded by the people I love most, my children, my grandchildren and my Jack! It was a wonderful weekend and the best Mother's Day! </span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-90767243950062457052013-04-03T22:40:00.001-04:002013-04-03T22:40:52.084-04:00Retired...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">First day I didn't have to go to work! Got up, drove to Wilmington and spent the day with my grandkids...something I've greatly missed. They were both delighted to hear that Grandma is finished working. It was fun and tiring, and I'm looking forward to more days like it. Tomorrow will be a lazy day. I turn 63 tomorrow. I don't know how I got here...20s...30s...40s...then boom, 63! I don't feel old, but it sounds old. Wish life had do-overs! Anyway, tomorrow's my birthday and I'm going to chill.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Work ended with a bang. Busy on call weekend, two deaths and I was out all Sunday night. Both families were very nice and told me I really helped them get through this most difficult time. I left feeling that I've made a difference in people's lives.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Have a bunch of things to do next week, then off we go. Heading to Indiana to pick up our new fifth wheel RV. The adventure begins...</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-869612577938672902013-03-18T01:05:00.000-04:002013-03-18T01:05:27.842-04:00Late Night Thoughts...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Having one of those nights when I can't sleep...just can't turn my mind off.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Two more weeks of work left (plus a final on-call weekend), then the paychecks stop. So does the health insurance. Going to have to file for my Social Security. Need to find out about COBRA insurance, but have serious doubts about whether I can afford it. Two years until I am eligible for Medicare. My Social Security alone isn't going to be enough to subsist on. Jack will have his VA benefit and Social Security...but he will also have alimony to pay. Still waiting to see what happens re: his ex's health insurance. Will be a real kick in the teeth if he is forced to pay for hers while I can't afford any! Worried that the courts may take half his income for her...she could end up with more income than he has! Men do not fare well in this state when it comes to divorce.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">We are getting ready to make a huge life change. It is exciting to contemplate, but scary too. Wondering what expenses will be like and how well we will be able to manage. Live safe or take a chance? We are opting to take a chance. I do fine with some risks, but financial risks are hard for me. We could try and live a quiet, safe life in Wilmington. I would be near Becca and my beloved Katie and Jackson, but we wouldn't have much going on in our life. It's not likely there would be money for travel once we paid all our basic living expenses. I don't want to waste away on the couch. So we are opting to take a chance...take the risk...and put adventure into our later years. Exciting but scary.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Keeps me awake some nights... </span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-46002945930600895652013-03-13T21:07:00.000-04:002017-09-04T10:13:44.835-04:00Kathy<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Wrote a few posts catching up 2012 but did not touch on the worst happening of the year. Probably because I am still trying to wrap my head around it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">All through my trials and tribulations early on with Jack's fear of commitment and my brother's heart surgery and various other events, both happy and sad, there was one person who was always there to support me, cry with me, rant with me, and cheer me on. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Kathy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">We went to high school together, but barely knew each other then...reconnecting later in life through the miracle of facebook. I often lamented that I wished we had known more about each other and found our connection back then...that we lost out on so many years of friendship. She agreed, but reminded me that we had lots of years left.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">She lived a full life...had many joys and endured many hardships...and came out stronger. She was funny, irreverent, passionate and a supporter of the downtrodden. She could put up sheetrock, lay floors, paint, move furniture. She didn't drink, but hung out at a bar owned by a friend. She always had room for another cat in need of a home, some of whom filled the rafters of her basement until they felt safe enough to emerge...much like Kathy who often said she was like her cats when it came to romance...hiding in the rafters, peeking out and disappearing again. She loved the water and loved the sun, roasting to a golden brown every summer. She dressed up as Cher on Halloween and went into the streets. She had a way of making all her friends feel special...especially me. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">I lost Kathy last September...the world lost Kathy last September. She died suddenly after a short illness...leaving behind two young adult children and a legion of friends. We won't have lots of years of friendship after all. What we had will have to do...and I treasure every moment we had. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">Love you, Sis!</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-18668504310312227002013-03-13T18:15:00.000-04:002013-03-13T21:11:04.862-04:00Time to Retire<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The stress has gotten to me. Eleven deaths in about two weeks, five in one day, two on-call nights that had me out all night long! It is time to retire! </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">My last day is April 1, 2013...three months ahead of plan. I feel such a relief and am counting the days (19) until then. I am excited and terrified.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Excited about the prospects of retirement and our plans to travel. Terrified at the prospect of a greatly reduced income. I keep telling myself - "It's only money." There comes a time, I think, when one has to rearrange priorities. This is the time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Went to a funeral today. My favorite patient died a bit unexpectedly. I had mixed feelings about leaving him when I retire. On one hand, because I was like part of the family, I didn't want to have to go through his death with him; on the other hand, I didn't want someone else to be there at that most difficult time of life. He took care of it for me, by taking a sudden downturn last weekend and dying Monday morning. It was my job to pronounce him. I will miss our weekly visits and will likely stop in to see his wife down the road.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I have one other favorite patient...we will have to see what happens with him. No one expected him to last as long as he has. Either way, I will stay in touch with his wife, who feels more like a friend than a patient family member.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">The rest of my patients I will turn over to other nurses easily. I will miss co-workers and the comraderie that comes with working on a team. I will not miss being on-call!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">We have some exciting retirement plans that I plan to chronicle in another blog: <a href="http://twofertheroad.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Two For The Road</a> - about living on the road in an RV. I will likely still post here for a while, but think I will eventually transition to <a href="http://twofertheroad.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Two For The Road</a>.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">You may notice that my "About Me" and its accompanying photo has changed. This is to better fit with the new blog...hoping Jack will post some there too!</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-35626679825636401912013-02-01T21:37:00.000-05:002013-03-13T21:11:24.954-04:00A Terrifying Experience...or...Remind Me Again Why I Do This Job.<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Looks like I've already missed an entire month of 2013! Life is too busy right now and not all for the good. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">This job is high stress. I have attended three deaths in five days...some sadder than others. Helping the families/loved ones through this time can be very rewarding and I usually like this part of the job...though I would prefer not so many in one week. Sometimes, when I have gotten attached to a patient and/or family, the death can feel like a personal loss. Even when it is not, it sometimes reminds me of a loss of my own or reminds me how very fragile life is.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Then there are the increased needs or crises; responding to those throws a monkeywrench into whatever patient visits I had lined up for the day. It can make for a very harrowing week, such as the one that is slowly coming to an end. Every day started or ended with an unexpected problem, leaving me struggling to catch up until only a few minutes ago.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">But, for me, the worst is being on-call, which occurs every Wednesday night and every third weekend. Sitting on tenterhooks, dreading the phone ringing and jumping every time it does...especially at 2AM. I am on-call this weekend and my stress is palable. There are weekends with very few calls and weekends with dozens, requiring one to put in twenty or more hours working over the course of two days...following and preceding a forty-hour work week, of course.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">This past week included a terrifying (for me) evening. I was trying to help out and offered to cover only two hours of call for a sick on-call nurse. After three calls in less than an hour, the third call required a visit. I headed out to see a patient I didn't know who lived about twenty miles out "in the country" and used my faithful GPS to find my way. I was doing pretty well until it instructed me to turn right...onto a dirt road. I made the turn and my GPS indicated I was on the correct road. The road was narrow and rutted, lined with woods and thickets on each side and twisted and turned in every direction. The night and the area was black as can be. I could see nothing behind me and only as far as my headlights in front of me. I questioned this road, but kept going as the GPS showed I was correct and only one half mile from my destination. About this time I came to a large puddle; as there was no way to turn around or back up, I stupidly ventured across it...and found myself stuck in about two feet of water! My first reaction was to be terrified and when I felt the water coming up over my feet the terror turned to panic! I scrambled over the console to the higher, passenger side of the car and took stock. I was stranded in my car, in the middle of nowhere, in pitch black darkness with water seeping in...and no one, including me, knew quite where I was!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I called the nurse I was supposed to be helping out, who lives in the area, and told her my situation. She was huddled under blankets and throwing up regularly, but rose to the occasion. After I calmed down and answered a number of her questions, she figured out where I probably was...and told me to keep my doors closed as this was swampy area! She sent her husband and father-in-law out to look for me. The time I spent waiting in that dark, cold, wet car seemed interminable. The headlights I finally saw in my rearview mirror were the most beautiful sight I had seen in a very long time! The two men were able to pull my car out of the water and eventually get it back to the paved road. Miraculously, it was still running and I was able to drive it home under my own (wet, muddy) power. It is a smelly mess!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">It was only after I got home that I began to realize how much worse it could have been. I was lucky that my friend was able to figure out where I was stranded, and luckier still that I even had a cell phone signal to make the call, as there are so many rural areas around here where it is impossible to get a signal.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">As I said earlier...a terrifying evening from which I am still (emotionally) recovering. I'm getting too old for this kind of excitement!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-31982822401314348972012-12-26T21:21:00.000-05:002012-12-26T21:22:53.042-05:00Catching Up...Part IV<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Summer was devoted to Jack's medical issues and to my learning a new job and adjusting to being in the workforce again. Then came September...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">As Jack was waking up from his emergency cholecystectomy (gall bladder removal), I got a call from his sister Mardell...with bad news. Jack's younger brother, Robin had been found dead at his home in California. He was 51. I hated having to tell him that. As more details emerged, we learned he had been murdered! (<a href="http://napavalley.patch.com/articles/supect-identified-in-fatal-napa-stabbing" target="_blank">details here</a>) Stabbed seventeen times! It was horrible. Two weeks after Jack's surgery we flew out to California for the Memorial Service. I think Jack needed to be with his family at that time. It was a nice service and a good family gathering but we were exhausted. We flew out and back in less than forty-eight hours. Not something I want to do again! Talk about jet lag...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">That catches us right up to the present...awaiting the New Year. I am sure there are all kinds of things I've missed and lots of topics I could explore, but for now this will have to suffice. Until next time...</span></div>
Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-78920663743636499272012-12-21T20:08:00.002-05:002012-12-21T20:09:51.021-05:00Catching Up...Part III ~ A JobOn June 6, 2012, after two years, 3 months and 25 days of unemployment (but who's counting), I started working again. Over that course of time, I applied for nearly one hundred jobs...and the one I got was one I didn't actually apply for!<br />
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I received a call from a head hunter, uh...I mean recruiter, asking me if I would be interested in a management position with a Hospice. Now management is not really my forte but, if they wanted to talk to me, I was game. After a few more phone calls, I went for an interview. The interview went well and one of the interviewers (Gene) really seemed to like me...but I didn't get that position. A few weeks later Gene emailed asking if I would be interested in talking about another position I went to a different office and interviewed with Sabrina. She seemed to like me and said she'd call in a couple of weeks. I waited for weeks on end without hearing anything and finally wrote it off as another job that went to someone else. About that time I got a phone call from Sabrina's manager, Jessica, just returning from maternity leave. She said she'd heard good things about me and could I come in an talk with her...a third interview! Two days after that interview she called with a job offer. I almost couldn't believe it, perfect timing since my unemployment had just run out!<br />
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I have been a Hospice Case Manager for a bit more than six months now. I work with good people and have learned a lot in that time. Hospice is like no other type of nursing. No one gets better, all our patients are on the road to death. My job is to make that journey a little easier, for both the patient and his/her family. My experiences will likely be the subject of future blog posts! <br />
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The best part of the job...a regular paycheck. I'd almost forgotten how nice it is to have money!Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-10388292201643419112012-12-18T20:26:00.000-05:002012-12-18T20:26:18.998-05:00Sandy Hook<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The tragedy of Sandy Hook has affected me like no other. I can't wrap my head around it. The first two days after it happened, I couldn't watch the details on the news or look at the pictures of the victims without feeling sick to my stomach. On Sunday, I finally brought myself to read the details and look at the pictures of the twenty children and the six adults who died with them and it still made me feel sick. The funerals are beginning now and seeing those little coffins and grieving parents brings me to tears. When I see pictures of their little smiling faces, I can't help but see my grandchilden's faces...and can not imagine a world without them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">What kind of monster guns down his own mother and then goes on to slaughter 20 six and seven year-olds in their classrooms? Children are supposed to be safe in school. My daughter drops her kids off at school every morning and goes about her business without worry. Imagine the horror of learning your child was gunned down in kindergarten. What of the children who survived seeing their friends and classmates murdered before their eyes? Terrifying can't begin to describe it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">What kind of society are we, when there are people more concerned with their "right" to own guns than they are with the loss of these children? The response of decent people is horror and a desire to prevent something like this from happening again, which naturally draws gun control into the conversation. This is when the gun nuts come out of the woodwork. There have even been suggestions that we need <em>more</em> guns and that teachers should be armed! Where is reasoned thought and compassion?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">This is not the first mass shooting; there have been others...Columbine, Virginia Tech, Aurora, CO, Oregon mall, Gabrielle Giffords...all in recent memory. Somehow this one feels even worse. This one feels personal. Two mothers wrote a piece examining why, entitled <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-rowe-walters/what-six-looks-like_b_2321671.html" target="_blank">What Six Looks Like</a>. It really hit home. I too, know what six looks like...it looks like my precious grandchildren and that makes it personal. </span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-45077619552029951502012-12-04T21:16:00.000-05:002012-12-04T21:29:32.279-05:00Catching Up...Part II<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">With April came our long-awaited California trip. Ten days on the west coast...and meeting Jack's family. We flew into San Francisco, picked up our rental car and headed north. Instead of the small car we reserved, they offered an "opportunity" to upgrade to a Jeep Liberty...at a price of course. Jack jumped at it and fell in love with that small red SUV.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">On our first day there, we saw Jack's son Jack, along with his wife Candice and their two daughters, Chanoa almost seven and Sienna the newest addition to the family at only two months old. Later that day his daughter Stacey, her husband Brian and their daughter Kayla (almost ten) arrived. We all went to dinner at Murillo's Mexican restaurant...a place Jack had good memories of...but the food was disappointing. After months of hearing how West Coast Mexican food was so much better than East Coast Mexican, it tasted no better than what I've had 'back East' and not as good as my favorite place! Jack said the place was not like he remembered. But...we had a great first night with kids and grandkids!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Jack's brother Melvin and his wife Robyn held a family get together at their house and Jack's sister Mardell (who I met the previous summer) and their brother Terry came up from Fresno. Sadly, Jack started coming down with something and had a hard time keeping up with all the activity and visits. I felt just awful for Jack, but I had a great time meeting and getting to know everyone. They liked me and I liked them...a success all around. Now he had to keep me!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">After we got home, I took Jack to Urgent Care and we found out he had pneumonia. He spent two weeks at home recovering and was still tired and coughing when he returned to work. It was at least a month before he was over it. This was just the first of his summer health problems. </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">June brought a hernia repair and another few weeks of recovery, but only one of them at home. In July it was cataract surgery. Then there was a diagnosis of anemia thrown in somewhere along the line and a GI work-up. They found some asymptomatic gall bladder problems in July that became troublesome. By September he was feeling bad, ended up in the ER and went straight to the OR for an unscheduled cholecystectomy and another week at home plus several more to recuperate.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-73734484163253649752012-11-18T21:45:00.000-05:002012-12-21T18:32:04.341-05:00Catching Up...Part I<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Well, my last post was welcoming in 2012 and here we are almost ready to welcome in 2013. I was starting a new chapter in my life and wanted to document it but, as it turns out, there really is life after sixty and I got too busy living it to find time to write about it. </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I'm going to play catch up now and see if we can't finish out 2012 before 2013 arrives!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">JANUARY</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">January was get ready to move month. Got a lot of smaller but vital things moved up to New Bern, ordered new bedroom furniture for Jack's and my new life together, bought airline tickets for California and found a new home for my kitties. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Jack's lease on the townhouse does not allow cats, so my kitties were not going to be able to make the move with me. It was fortunate that I adopted them from a rescue group and was able to return them to the group when I could no longer keep them. I gave them about six weeks notice and they were able to find a foster home for them where they could stay together. Giving them back was a very hard thing for me to do.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Jack had some bouts of cold feet during this time, but worked them out and the move went forward. I didn't know until much later how difficult this commitment was for him. The actual move-in date for furniture got pushed ahead several times and didn't happen until early March, but the last night I spent in my house was about three days before Christmas. To this day, I never quite know what to say when someone asks how long we've lived together!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">FEBRUARY & MARCH</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">February brought only a rather disappointing Valentine's Day...next year's will be better...and some serious health problems for my brother, Glen. He suffered his first attack of Congestive Heart Failure, followed by a second, finally culminating in open heart surgery in March. As this is all catch up rather than real time, I can say that he is now doing fine, but it was a long and difficult road. I spent more time in Greenboro the month of March than I did in New Bern. It was very scary to consider the possibility of losing my brother. It also caused some strained feelings towards baby brother Ken. I know he loves Glen and would have been devastated to lose him, but I was disappointed in the amount of time he was able to allocate to helping Glen during this time. Fortunately, Glen has some very good friends and support at Unity Church who pitched in to help with animal care, visits, food and household chores.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">During one of my many visits to Greensboro I ran into an ex-husband - Bud...husband number two. He was at the hospital for a job interview and we had lunch together. It was a nice visit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Jack and I celebrated an annivarsary at the end of March. One year together as a couple. It was a year full of ups and downs, but ended on an up. Jack came home from work with roses, the first I had ever received from him, and sweet cards. Then we went out for a romantic dinner at <a href="http://www.morganstavernnewbern.com/" target="_blank">Morgan's Tavern</a>, a place we particularly like. It was a great anniversary celebration!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">April brought my sixty-second birthday, not a milestone, just another birthday. I learned that Jack was not accustomed to giving birthday gifts and he learned that I AM accustomed to getting them. Next year will be a better birthday...he promised! I did have a great birthday celebration with Becca,Davis, Katie and Jackson!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">The bedroom furniture I ordered in January finally arrived from High Point at the end of April. It was, and is, beautiful and we are both happy with it. Good thing as it is probably the last bedroom furniture we will ever have! One of the downsides of getting older...realizing that your are approaching "lasts' in your life.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">We went to California in April, but I will leave the details of that trip for my next installment. It was a good trip overall, but heralded the start of a summer of medical issues for Jack.</span><br />
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<br />Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-33507469526820922382012-01-23T01:58:00.000-05:002012-01-23T01:58:51.100-05:00New Year, New Beginning...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Well, three weeks into the the New Year and I'm getting used to it being 2012.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I will turn sixty-two this year, which means I will be eligible for Social Security benefits, should I want to take them. It rather boggles my mind. I've never been able to imagine being old enough for SS - it's always felt like it was off in the distant future. Realizing it is upon me is a bit of a reality shock!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">No New Year's resolutions for me. I've never had any luck with them. While, in one respect, the New Year can feel like a beginning, in most ways, it just feels like a continuation of winter...and I usually can't find any good reason to want to "turn over a new leaf".</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">This year the New Year actually is a beginning; it is ushering in the start of a new chapter in my life. I am moving...to a new life in a new city (town?)...moving in with Jack, into his townhouse in New Bern. Seventy-five miles and ninety minutes from home...and from Becca, Katie and Jackson. I never expected to move even a short distance from them, so this is a good indicator of how much building a life with Jack means to me. </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I'm going to miss them a lot and plan to make that drive between New Bern and Wilmington on a regular basis. I'm going to miss Wilmington too. New Bern is quite lacking in things to do, places to go, and good restaurants; Wilmington, on the other hand, lacks Jack! It is a temporary move, to be sure, only until Jack retires in the next two to three years...then we will return to Wilmington.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I may be nearing sixty-two, but falling in love makes me feel more like twenty-two. Right now life feels good and I'm happy. </span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-216305391348963462011-12-26T17:13:00.002-05:002011-12-26T17:19:48.630-05:002011 Comes To An End...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Wow! Haven't written in a long time! It is the day after Christmas - the holidays are coming to an end - weeks of shopping, cooking, decorating, wrapping are all over. Nothing left to do but take down the tree, ring in the new year and forge ahead.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The holidays were...well, holidays. Spent Thanksgiving at Susan's (Becca's mother-in-law) as we often do. It was good...except Jack was coming down with something (and stayed sick for a week) and I, apparently, offended Susan (unintentionally) with an offhand comment on Facebook! I emailed an apology, but never received a response, so...who knows?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Made a visit to Greensboro to see my brothers on the fifteenth - mainly to celebrate Glen's turning sixty. We had a nice birthday celebration and a nice visit - even got to see Ciera perform in a gymnastic meet. Then I fell. I was shopping with Ciera and my foot hit a place where the cement was uneven...and I fell flat on my face! My left cheek is swollen, bruised and abraded. Also ended up with a break in my pinky right where it joins the hand! It hurts...a LOT! Thank goodness it's my left hand! Face is improving...the hand is in a splint for 6-8 weeks. It's only been a little more than a week and I'm already sick of trying to do everything with one hand!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">We had a nice Christmas celebration with Becca, Davis and the kids at Lee (Davis' dad) and Karen's on Christmas Eve. They always have a nice Christmas Eve party...and make fabulous chili! Christmas Day was Doug's turn for Christmas at Becca's, so Jack and I had a quiet Christmas up at his place in New Bern...which is soon to be my place too! Yes...we're moving in together the end of January!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Starting a new life in the New Year... </span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-39980630164457274682011-11-13T21:24:00.000-05:002011-11-13T21:24:03.670-05:00A Day (or Three) At the Races...<div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">A year ago, if someone had said to me that I would be going to races and liking it, I would have said they were out of their ever-loving minds! But, to say that Jack loves racing would be an understatement. It's in his blood. He even loves the smell of methanol (I got a strong whiff and it burned my eyes and my throat)! Anyway, Jack's passion is racing and I want to be able to share it with him...so I went to my first car race last weekend.</span></div><br />
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</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg61HnLnCnauqHLuqWz3GAZnEXYFaNa1uvz3YEXIUBdoZZDhouvTfgOBm4_lLKvQZIMLN7DH7NesmZQ0xctIDGXJYODHCEGLlnfLXx1QQ6Omcmlabi74ePFyAKJ8C46KVEEolVgSeiggcwf/s1600/Pits.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" nda="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg61HnLnCnauqHLuqWz3GAZnEXYFaNa1uvz3YEXIUBdoZZDhouvTfgOBm4_lLKvQZIMLN7DH7NesmZQ0xctIDGXJYODHCEGLlnfLXx1QQ6Omcmlabi74ePFyAKJ8C46KVEEolVgSeiggcwf/s200/Pits.jpg" width="200" /></a><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I learned how just cold it can be up in the grandstands when the wind is blowing. I learned just how much red dirt one can inhale when the track is dry and said wind is blowing. I learned the difference between Late Models and Modifieds (I already knew about Sprint Cars). I ate track food...and paid $4 for a bottle of water, a Diet Coke, a hot dog or a slice of pizza, $6 for a hamburger or a beer...and liked it. We had passes to go into the Pits; seeing the cars close up was very cool. I am now the proud owner of a World of Outlaws hoodie, goggles (for the red dirt) and ear protectors (race cars are very loud). I learned that racing is more than just driving fast...and that watching it is fun and exciting!</span></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I'm even looking forward to our next race trip! </span></div>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-51198211094293642962011-11-01T19:00:00.001-04:002011-11-01T19:03:09.887-04:00Trick...or Treat?<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I went trick or treating with Katie and Jackson last night - just like I do every year. It has pretty much become a tradition; I've missed only one Halloween - in 2007, when I had to rush to Pinehurst because one of my parents had been hospitalized. I don't recall whether it was Mom or Dad as it was a frequent occurence for both in their last years.</span><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLsrQmP7LPA9o2-isNUhmHJRQ_Xz84LQ_yBMGVvm2n1h9OM5ZCDP07BbzsvB29f0w_qtK400YfXlPu5MsRuSUQgT0fJ9rf1I530TIKcKCJaPoPzH4UhgxxDNrMwzATITPARyz98O63Mb0T/s1600/Halloween+2011.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" ida="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLsrQmP7LPA9o2-isNUhmHJRQ_Xz84LQ_yBMGVvm2n1h9OM5ZCDP07BbzsvB29f0w_qtK400YfXlPu5MsRuSUQgT0fJ9rf1I530TIKcKCJaPoPzH4UhgxxDNrMwzATITPARyz98O63Mb0T/s320/Halloween+2011.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Katie was a Zombie and Jackson was the Pirate Jack Sparrow. Every year I've found myself calling out "be careful" dozens of times; this year I didn't say it even once. They just seemed so much older - going from house to house, staying with the group, waiting for the others when necessary, even using umbrellas when the rain came -lots of excitement and no meltdowns!</span> <br />
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</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I'm still trying to come up with a reply!</span></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"></div>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-2085313776396744522011-10-24T07:58:00.000-04:002011-10-24T07:58:05.809-04:00Ruminating...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">So much for resolving to post more often. My last post was over a month ago! Sometimes I have so much on my mind I just don't know what I want to say...and I wish my mind had an "off" switch.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">There's a lot going on in the world lately and, although I have opinions and strong feelings, I'm tired of all the politics. The ever present race for the GOP nomination from a field of clowns. A surge of activism...with Occupy Wall Street as the latest. Qaddafi toppled and dead. Health care reform, rescuing Social Security, same-sex marriage. Seems people are talking of nothing else; everyone's got their opinion and no one is changing anyone's mind. One is either preaching to the choir or ones words are falling on dead ears.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Still, I have lots of my own problems. No job for starters. I've applied for nearly eighty jobs in the last twenty months to no avail. Since I'm no longer making a mortgage payment, my unemployment covers bills and living expenses for now - but I'm not sure how much longer that will last. Once that stops, I will be scrounging. At which point I will have to look for anything...even if it only pays minimum wage. There's health insurance or the lack thereof. COBRA ran out over two months ago and, although I am in reasonably good health, apparently I am too high risk to insure. Hate to think about people who have serious health problems. Then, of course, there is the aforementioned mortgage that I'm no longer paying and the inevitable foreclosure, along with the myriad of issues that brings forth. It's enough to make one crazy..and depressed.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">More and more, in the interests of preserving my mental health, I take the ostrich approach and focus my energies on the upside of my life. My kids, grandkids, other family, and Jack.</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-52889734443363435272011-09-18T20:03:00.001-04:002011-10-24T08:02:31.071-04:00Turning Five and Growing Older...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">We are reaching the end of summer and moving towards a new year. Felt the first nip of fall these last few days and, while summer weather is not gone for good (eighty degree temps will return later in the week), it always feels good the first time I have to put on jeans or a shirt with sleeves! </span><br />
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</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Seems my posts are less frequent and all I do is marvel over the passage of time. Someone once told me that once we reach the fifteenth of the month, the month is essentially over. I'm noticing this seems to be true. I'm going to make an effort to post on here a bit more often - before life passes right by me!</span></div>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-80855261263693211522011-08-31T14:31:00.002-04:002016-07-18T11:44:23.575-04:00Exhausting August...<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Wow! Seems August has kept me busy since this is only my second post for the month and the last day of August. For a little while there, it almost felt I was running a Bed and Breakfast...sans breakfast as everyone helped themselves.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">Lin, a girl I went to high school with visited Wilmington with her husband Dale and we had dinner together. We went downtown for dinner at <a href="http://elijahs.com/index.php">Elijah's</a>...one of my favorites...then walked along the riverfront in Historic downtown Wilmington. We hadn't seen each other in forty-three years and didn't know each other very well in high school - so it could have been an awkward evening, but it wasn't. Jack and I enjoyed the evening with them and conversation flowed easily. A nice reunion.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">The next morning Glen came for a visit and brought Tasha Dog with him. We ate out a lot, spent time visiting with Becca, Davis, Katie and Jackson and...Glen and Jack finally met. Tasha enjoyed her time lounging on the porch! As usual, Glen put in time cleaning up my computers - he's a computer whiz - and he started work upgrading Jack's computer. He pronounced Jack a nice guy and said I can keep him! I always enjoy time with Glen.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">Next came Roy and Cynthia. Roy's a former boyfriend and Cynthia is his best friend turned girlfriend. They were in town so Cynthia could gather more information for her upcoming book on Gullah culture (due to be published by Christmas) and spent two nights with me. It was a nice visit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">As Roy and Cynthia left, Ken and Ciera arrived. They wanted one last weekend at the beach before Ciera went back to school. Got some beach time in and some good food. Sadly, Becca and family were out of town so the cousins missed each other. It was good to see them again...a little odd, but good.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">A few days later I experienced a first in my life. There was a 5.8 earthquake in Northern Virginia that was felt down here! It created much excitement and frenzy for East Coasters unfamiliar with earthquakes. I was sitting on Jack's couch watching something I'd DVR'd (he was at work) and the couch started to shimmy sideways. My first thought was that the dog was scratching while leaning against the couch...until I saw her sitting on a chair! I didn't know what it was until I later went online, but I'm proud to say I didn't freak! Jack, being from California, knew exactly what it was immediately.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">Jack's sister Mardell came to town next. She was in New Jersey visiting a friend and they traveled to Carolina Beach for a few days, so we made plans to meet in Wilmington. We spent most of the day wandering downtown and visiting - with a stop for lunch at <a href="http://elijahs.com/index.php">Elijah's</a>, of course, and ice cream at <a href="https://www.kilwins.com/Wilmington">Kilwins</a>. I really enjoyed meeting her and her friend Ellen. We got along well; I liked them and they seemed to like me. Jack later told me I received his sister's stamp of approval.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">A few days later, Irene came to town - a rather unwelcome visitor as Irene was a Category 2 hurricane. We battened down the hatches at my house, left the cats lots of food and water and retreated to Jack's to ride her out. She was expected to bypass Wilmington and make landfall at Morehead City so we knew the cats would be safe. We fared well - only losing power for about eight hours. It got a little warm without A/C and have to admit we missed cable which stayed out about twenty-four hours...but really no great hardship.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms";">Wonder what September has in store...</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-35853260287300430082011-08-11T22:35:00.000-04:002011-08-11T22:35:10.145-04:00August Already?<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">My gosh...we're nearly half way through August! Still no real job, but signed up with an agency to work flu-shot clinics this fall - so maybe an opportunity for some money. The routine job hunting continues as always.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Jack and I have dinner plans tomorrow with a girl from my high school - and her husband. After forty-three years I suppose I shouldn't be referring to her as a girl, though that's what she was the last time I saw her! Funny how time changes perspective...though we were not close in high school, we are both excited and looking forward to seeing each other tomorrow. We reconnected via Facebook. Her husband is a car racing enthusiast as is Jack, so I am hoping the men will find common ground for conversation.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Saturday, Glen arrives for a visit - his first in a year. I am looking forward to introducing him to Jack and just having time to visit!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Down the August road - more house guests and meeting Jack's sister...</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-28694152419376319682011-07-27T16:36:00.001-04:002011-08-13T11:52:53.044-04:00July...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">As usual, July has been a busy month. It is chock full of birthdays - in calendar order - Jack was 64, Michael was 38, Davis was 41 and Becca was 36. Then there was Ken's yearly beach vacation visit. We had a good time...as always. The past two summers Ed was living here and did lots of cooking while they visited. Prior to that we used to eat out most of the time. This year was a combo of both - I did some cooking and we did some eating out.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">The little cousins spent lots of time together, especially Katie and Ciera. There were sleepovers in both directions and a trip to the theater with the girls to see <em>Annie.</em> Jackson spent that day with Daddy, while Ken and Matthew detailed my car (a great bonus!). Matthew went off on his own the first few days to hang with some college buddies. Hard to believe he's twenty now.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">We put in lots of beach and pool time. The girls are becoming excellent swimmers and Jackson is getting braver about trying out his skills. Katie even managed to coerce Grandma into going down the waterslide at the pool! Ken took a picture, so my awkward plunge is preserved for posterity! Jack spent a pool day with us and met Ken and the kids, while Katie and Jackson wore him out in the pool. We can still hear Jackson calling out, "Mr. Jack! Mr. Jack!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I've turned into a real beach grandma this summer and am sporting the best tan I've had in decades! Becca has asked me several times if I am trying to give myself skin cancer. I do protect my face, but haven't been as careful with the rest of me. Have to admit I like the color on my arms and legs.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">This Saturday Becca and Davis have a wedding in SC, so Katie and Jackson will spend the weekend with Grandma. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I'm still anticipating visits from Glen and from my niece Laura and her family. Ken has talked about coming down again, and Jack's sister will be in the area in a few weeks, as well as an old girlfriend of mine from high school. Hard to say just what August will bring...</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-63243483681590082292011-07-06T23:37:00.003-04:002011-07-08T00:24:40.890-04:00Motherhood...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Thirty-eight years ago tonight I became a mother for the first time. At 11:37 PM to be exact. I was twenty-three years old and as naive as any twenty-three year old could be. I had no idea what lay ahead. I was tired and sore from pushing a nine pound baby out of my petite body; every second of the experience indelibly etched into my memory. I can remember that it was painful, but I can no longer remember what the pain felt like. Natural childbirth was still in the pioneer stages and I was proud to be a participant.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Now I feel like an old hand at motherhood. I've raised two babies into adulthood and have two grandchildren. I can see the many mistakes I made and recognize good parenting when I see it. The things that scared me the most turned out to be insignificant and the really big stuff sometimes sneaked by. There is an old saying to the effect that when children are small they step on a mother's toes and when they are grown they step on her heart. I saw the veracity of that increase as the years went by.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I found a sentiment in a Hallmark card when my daughter was pregnant that said, "Motherhood is having your heart walk around outside your body." An excellent description if there ever was one - nothing can bring greater joy or greater pain than motherhood. When her children are cut, a mother bleeds; when they are hurt, she cries; when they are happy, she feels joy; when they remember her, she is euphoric; when they forget, she is anguished and if their lives should be cut short, she dies. Only in Motherhood does unconditional love truly exist.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I have learned much over the years, made mistakes galore, loved with all my heart and then some and had my heart pierced a time or two. It's a thankless job with great rewards and, while I would do a few things differently if given the chance, I wouldn't trade the experience for all the riches in the world.</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-56908105818095348042011-06-30T19:51:00.000-04:002011-06-30T19:51:19.307-04:00Same Old Same Old...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The job interview went well and I was excited about the propspects - until they called today to tell me the job went to another candidate. Such simple words to dash ones hopes. I was highly qualified for this job; it is exactly what I have been doing for most of my career. The person who got the job may also be highy qualified, but why her and not me? What was her edge? It's hard not to let this stuff get me down. I've been looking and appying for almost eighteen months. I've been either ignored or not selected at least forty to fifty times in the last year and a half. </span><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I'm tired of feelings of inadequacy; I'm tired of feeling rejected or ignored; I'm tired of the chipping away at my confidence in my abilities. I'm tired of being tired.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">It"s getting old and so am I.</span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-25479444123990432762011-06-29T17:57:00.001-04:002011-06-29T18:04:21.777-04:00Updates Here and There...<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Still waiting to hear about the job. Called the recruiter in HR and got voice mail - hung up without leaving a message. Yes, I know that was wimpy. I'll try again tomorrow. The waiting is killing me, but I'm almost afraid to find out because my hopes may be dashed. Every job I don't get is one less option available to me - or at least that's how it feels.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">My Sunday dinner to introduce Jack to my daughter, son-in-law and grandkids went well. The food was good - so everyone said - and conversation was fine. Though Jack was nervous (he said) he interacted nicely with everyone; I was proud to show him off. Everyone seemed to like him well enough and he seemed to like them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Well, I am officially one month in arrears on my mortgage. The bank calls every day...five or six times if I don't answer. Talked to them today and exlained my situation. I got a few "I'm sorry" platitudes and several useless suggestions as to how I could get them their money.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">The woman at the other end of the phone asked if I had any relatives who could help. I expressed dismay that she would expect my children to pay my bills when they were busy trying to support their own children.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Then she asked if I had considered renting out a room. I replied that I'd considered that, but that it would only net me about a fifth of the mortgage payment so why bother.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">She replied that I might find work. I said I was still looking, but at sixty plus and after 18 months without a job, I asked what she thought my odds were.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">She asked if I have any income at all. I told her I had a few more months of unemployment. She asked how much that is. I told her and said it is equal to my mortgage payment, which leaves nothing for electricity or food. I asked if she was suggesting I give up either.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">She suggested that I could get hardship permission to tap my 401K. I said, "You want me to use what little retirement money I have to try and save a house I can't afford so that I can be destitute and eat cat food when I'm seventy?"</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">She suggested I contact a realtor. I told her I had and that I would have twenty thousand dollars in out of pocket costs. She suggested a short sale. I told her I had considered it but had been told that the bank wouldn't be likely to approve it if I have retirement money in the bank. She said she didn't know about that.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I think she must have reached the end of her list of suggestions because she finished up by telling me that since I am still in arrears I can expect to get "follow up" calls daily and wished me a nice day... </span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5765048251922154990.post-81317799619898054592011-06-25T18:10:00.001-04:002011-06-29T18:03:54.598-04:00My Week in Review...<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Okay, I had a great birthday dinner and ice cream with Katie on Tuesday. It amazes me just how grown she is becoming.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">The dentist on Wednesday wasn't quite as bad as I expected and I have an appointment to get the the rest of the work in a few weeks. Maybe my teeth will last me a lifetime after all.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Thursday's interview went well and the job sounds pretty decent for a hospital job. The manager said she thought I'd fit in well on the unit. She had one more interview to do Friday then would make a decision. I feel like I've got a good shot at it - but one never knows anymore. Recruiting promised I'd hear something one way or the other this week. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">The hospital is exactly one hundred sixteen miles from my front door and thirty-nine miles from Jack's front door. We talked about it and Jack is okay with my commuting from his place. I'm trying not to let my mind run rampant with "what if" plans for the future.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I hate the waiting... </span>Gail and Jackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10128534120245875302noreply@blogger.com